7 Expert-Proven Ways To Improve Your Pre-Wedding Health And Wellbeing
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Planning a wedding can evoke overwhelming emotions, especially for brides-to-be. It is no surprise that people vividly visualise this perfect day since childhood or daydream of walking down the aisle even with a faceless groom.
But then, the time has come, the date is fast approaching, and it hits you.
“The moments before, during and after weddings are surrounded by an increased level of positive stress which leads to a lot of emotionalities,” London based Psychologist and Therapist, Nicoleta Porojanu tells Beauty Daily.
Adding: “But don’t forget to learn to enjoy the journey, let go of control, and give up the expectation that everything needs to be perfect.”
Beauty Daily lists seven expert-proven ways to keep your physical and mental health in top shape before the day you say ‘I do’.
1. Let go of things you can’t control
“Relax and enjoy the moment and don’t worry about things you can’t control, like the weather,” says Celebrity Events and Wedding Planner, Kristina Kempton.
Anne Lora Scagliusi, Beauty Daily Beauty and Wellness Writer shares: “My fiancé-then-now husband planned carefully and picked Seychelles as our civil wedding destination in hopes of a sunny seaside ceremony. The weather forecast leading to the wedding day was all sunny; however, it poured on D-day. I was so anxious and hoped for the rain to stop, but I finally let go. The wedding went on, and it did us a favour. The entire beach was empty, except for us and our guests to enjoy. We were all dancing in the rain. It stormed for a reason, did we know why? No, but as the Italian saying goes Sposa bagnata, sposa fortunata (A wet bride is a lucky bride).”
2. Don’t overthink or over plan
Your wedding day is a celebration of you and your groom-to-be’s unique love story. Overthinking or worrying about whether or not your guests will enjoy the day is a common fear. But come to think of it: if the people you invited are people who love you and want you to have the best day ever, it shouldn’t be a concern. They’ll be crying at first sight of you in that white dress. It’s your day; own it!
“Plan your wedding day to suit yourselves as a couple and not everyone attending. Yes, you need to consider the guest experience but taking on board all 100+ people’s thoughts is impossible,” says Kempton.
3. Beat bridal blues and bridal jitters
“At the centre of the wedding is the bride, which tends to attract the greatest attention and the most pressure. After all the time of meticulous planning and setting grand expectations, this creates a build-up of tension,” explains Porojanu.
Beat the bridal blues and bridal jitters by sharing your fears and frustrations with your groom-to-be or spend time with your family and friends. Ask for support during this time. You’re not alone, and it’s not you against the world.
4. Take a break from wedding planning
Do something that can distract you from all the wedding prep. “Planning a wedding is stressful and focusing on some ‘me’ is a wonderful way to gain some perspective and find a moment of calm amidst the chaos,” says Charlotte McHale, Clarins Training Manager.
She suggests booking a rebalancing massage for de-stressing. This 70-min spa treatment is nothing short of tranquillity. Choose between ‘Tonic’ Oil to help stimulate the body and mind or ‘Relax’ Oil to invoke a feeling of absolute calm. Book here.
5. Create a self-care to-do list
“In the intensity created around the wedding, the bride can easily lose sense of herself. With focus on everyone and everything, the bride often disconnects from her body and fails to create mindful moments to become aware of her inner life. Therefore it is so vital for the bride to have self-care as an item on her ‘to do’ list,” says Porojanu.
It can simply be a long soak in a hot tub with some essential oil-infused candles or a 15-minute facial mask. Use this time to reconnect with yourself, do things that spark joy, and focus on yourself and mute everything else. Here are ten simple and soothing self-care ideas you can do this weekend or whenever you feel you need some extra bride-to-be pampering.
6. Seek help and rely on professionals
“Yes, it’s one of the biggest days of your life, but you need to be secure in the fact your wedding has taken months or years to plan. Using good suppliers will help you reduce stress levels knowing you have the professionals on the job,” says Kempton.
Adding: “Get as much done as you can and confirm. Last-minute changes will add stress. Keep to your routine if you exercise or have hobbies; keeping your normal schedule helps you feel like you are in control. Don’t stress the tiny details.”
7. Focus on what’s important–you
Stress every now and then is inevitable, but having a regimen towards the big day will keep you in check.
“It is important for the bride to manage her energy with care and focus her attention primarily on her physical, mental, and spiritual well-being.
A healthy diet, rest, physical movement, and time spent in nature can help the bride stay connected with both the internal and external world and retain a sense of aliveness and vitality. I would also encourage daily meditation, journaling, and checking up regularly with a close support group.” says Porojanu
Embrace the wait with excitement rather than worries. Focus on the best bits, not the worst ones. “Just enjoy every moment. It goes so quick you want to have the most amazing day and live in the moment” Kempton concludes.
Sarah Joan Ross, Beauty Daily Editor shares:
We planned the wedding for 4pm and then the festivities straight afterwards. This gave us the time to relax and share special moments during the day. It also allowed me to get out and go for a long walk in the countryside with my mother. Luckily, the Devon location helped, with woodlands and pretty scenery on the doorstep of my parent’s house.
However, wherever you are – I think escaping all the people coming and going and the frenetic energy that comes with it is key.
On a superficial note, it also limbered me up for the walk down the aisle – so shoulders weren’t as hunched, and I felt ethereal instead of uptight.
Last word: Break in your shoes. I wore mine for weeks beforehand, so I didn’t get stressed or grumpy about sore feet and I danced the night away.